My mother always reminded me that things will change with time and that personal evolution is imperative for success. Growing up I have always been told “you are not living unless you have had your heart broken”. You have to learn and grow, to always use your past experiences as a guideline for the future and the path you want to pursue. That being said, it’s inherent that relationships are time consuming, emotional and potentially stressful. It takes sincere effort, dedication and trust to accommodate both people, and this can be even more difficult when you are only sixteen. High school relationships are often overlooked and treated as unimportant by adults. Many believe that teenagers do not understand the difference between love and lust; that immaturity clouds the common sense of the adolescents and that they don’t understand how to work together as a team.
High school relationships teach an individual a lot about themselves and helps create a sense of understanding. They give a look into the “real world”, or at least one that doesn’t involve parents, teachers and schedules. As someone who has been in a high school relationship for over two years, I have found that friendship is the overarching factor to any kind of relationship. Boundaries must be understood to create stability and the same goes for communication. Working together as a partnership is imperative, no matter how old you are.
As Henry Ford put it, “Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward.” Meaning, everyone needs to make their own choices, to lead to their own mistakes. Relationships will allow you understand how to communicate and work together with others. Some would argue that the dangers of teen relationships outweigh the benefits. These threats would include sexual pressure, emotional attachment, drama and increased pregnancy rate. With proper education and support, these pressures can be avoided. If we continue to tell teenagers that they are not mature to make decisions, they will not know what to do when given the chance. Guidance and advice are more beneficial than shutting them down, especially when they will do it anyway.
As a society, we need to come together to accept relationships that are taken seriously and based in a solid friendship foundation. Education is provided in school, and this includes the constructing knowledge of relationships. Ultimately, it is not expected that these relationships will last “forever”, but the lessons they provide will impact how the world is viewed and the impact people make upon one’s self.